11 Things You Need to Know About Dating
I never thought I’d be unmarried for all of my 20s. Like so many of my peers, I was surprised by how hard—and sometimes fruitless—dating had become. Wasn’t it supposed…
Have We Made an Idol Out of Sexual Purity?
I’ll never forget the look on her face as she shared the story of her dark sexual past, with tears welling up in her eyes. But the ironic thing is,…
How to Find the Beauty in a ‘Boring’ Marriage
The first challenge most marriages must endure does not come from trials and tribulation, but ordinary life. A mild disillusionment replaces newlywed euphoria as the echoes of wedding bells give…
The Profound Spiritual Truth of Marriage
When a married couple pursues Christ together does it change the DNA of their marriage? Hopefully, yes. I know many couples with no connection to organized religion who have wonderful,…
Why There’s No Such Thing As a Soul Mate
I got an email from a young man who was feeling frustrated with relationships. He had recently asked a girl on a date and had been turned down. She explained…
5 Dating Mistakes You’re Probably Making
There are so many mistakes to be made when it comes to dating and relationships. And often, we learn, grow and heal from those mistakes. But there are also times…
Singleness Isn’t a Problem
If you’re a Christian, older than 22 and single, odds are things are weird for you sometimes. Intentionally or not, the Church seems to have expectations, and even a timeline,…
No, You Don’t Need a Spouse to Complete You
I remember being in 6th grade and watching some cheesy family movie where the princess fell in love with some peasant shlub and they lived happily ever after. I remember…
I’m Single. Don’t Pity Me on Valentine’s Day
Editor’s note: This piece originally ran in 2017. Scenario 1: Valentine’s Day. It’s a sudden build up. The Christmas decorations are wiped off the shelves, and the next day they…
6 Date Ideas for This Weekend That Literally Don’t Cost Anything
I remember an expensive first date when I was in my early 20s. I was introduced to this girl and I took her out to the Cheesecake Factory. The atmosphere…
Everything My Church Taught Me About Sex and Marriage Is Wrong
As a sixth grader, I went to a big Christian summer camp where the speaker said to thousands of us, “Hi, my name is Dave and I’ll be your speaker…
6 Signs Your Relationship Shouldn’t Last
Often when I’m counseling a person who has just experienced a break-up, I ask them if they saw warning signs while they were dating, but ignored them. Nine times out…
Infidelity Site Ashley Madison Reveals the Most Adulterous Cities in America
The website Ashley Madison—which claims to help married individuals cheat on their spouses—has revealed which cities are the most adulterous in America. They recently sent USA Today a list of…
Top 10 Relationship Killers and How to Avoid Them
“We’re getting a divorce,” she explained, with a look of disappointment on her face. Her tone of voice changed, as she tried to look on the bright side. “But it’s…
Build Your Marriage on the Beatitudes
In a recent Ask Pastor John podcast, a baffled father queried Dr. John Piper about what he should say to his adult son who is considering a divorce from his…