Gen Z is taking a more intentional approach to dating, prioritizing shared values and long-term compatibility over casual connections, according to a new study from eHarmony.
The study found that members of Gen Z are more likely than older generations to consider shared beliefs as essential in a partner.
“Gen Z grew up hearing stories about couples — or even seeing their own parents — separate because of political and social differences,” explained Dr. Hannah Holmes, a clinical psychologist. “They see it as a serious sign of lack of compatibility rather than just a minor disagreement.”
Twenty-eight percent of Gen Z respondents said having different political views would be a dealbreaker, compared to 21 percent of millennials and Gen X. Gen Z daters also placed higher importance on religious compatibility and shared social values than previous generations. Many are less interested in casual dating or hookups, instead seeking partners who match their convictions and life goals.
Gen Z is also having less sex than previous generations at the same age, a trend researchers believe is connected to this values-driven approach. Rather than prioritizing immediate physical connection, many young adults are waiting for emotional and moral compatibility before taking that step.
The study also found Gen Z is more open to relocating for a relationship, with only 12 percent saying they wouldn’t move for love, compared to 19 percent of millennials and Gen X. Researchers suggest this willingness points to a generation that values meaningful connection enough to make major life changes.
Gen Z’s more selective, intentional approach signals a shift away from casual dating culture. Instead of “playing the field,” many young adults are choosing to focus on finding partners who align with their beliefs, their goals and their sense of purpose — a move that’s reshaping modern dating norms.
