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The Quest For Control

The Quest For Control

If there’s one thing I’ve learned since becoming a Christian it’s that we’re not in control. Even when we have not made Jesus Christ our Lord, we still have ultimately no control over many aspects of our lives. Sure we can make choices without God, often the wrong ones, but when all is said and done it is God who controls our lives. Now am I saying that God isn’t a God of free will? No, what I’m saying is that while God does gives humans the free will to make choices, humans still cannot control many of their circumstances. All of that lies in God’s hands. For example, you may choose what career you want to pursue, but God controls how well you do your job based on the skills and abilities He has placed in you. You had the choice of career, but you have limited control over how well suited you are for it. As Proverbs 16:33 says so wisely: “We may throw the dice, but the Lord determines how they fall.”

So knowing that God, first of all, controls many of our circumstances, and secondly, knows what’s best for us, then why is it that so many of us fight against the Lordship of Christ? It’s quite easy to accept God as a friend or even savior, but when it comes down to placing Him as Lord and King, that’s when the problems come. Why do we have such a hard time placing Christ as Lord in our lives?

In basic terms, I think it’s because deep down we are all somewhat of control freaks. As soon as we are old enough to know what control is, we want it. It’s kind of like the changes that occurred in me after I got my driver’s license. Before that day, I honestly had no problems with my Mom’s driving. In fact, I actually tried to mirror mine after hers, but after I got behind the wheel myself- something changed. After spending some time in the driver’s seat, I was suddenly no longer a silent passenger or very comfortable when someone else was behind the wheel. Just ask my family. Kristen the critic emerged:

“You’ve put your turning signal on too soon.”

“Go faster- you’re impeding traffic.”

“You should have taken the other street- it’s faster.”

Looking back, it may seem funny (it was not funny for my Mom at the time- at all), but I believe this experience speaks great truth when it comes to our spiritual state. You see, we don’t have a problem with having God in the driver’s seat of our lives when the road is straight and there are no other cars around, but throw in a few curves and suddenly we are no longer silent passenger’s:

“How come we’re stopping here?”

“I’m telling you, we have to turn left up ahead.”

“The freeway is faster!”

And sadly, many times we ask God to get out of the driver’s seat completely. And since He is the God of free will, He hands us a road map and sends us off to navigate the system of roads He created.

So we drive. We make wrong turns, we get lost, we break the law and sometimes we even have accidents. Yet, we won’t let the One who knows the road from start to finish navigate, and we won’t let the One with the perfect driving record drive.

I don’t know about you, but I’m getting tired of making wrong turns. I’m tired of driving through life so stressed out about the road ahead that I can’t enjoy the section of road in front of me. Basically, I’m tired of being in the driver’s seat, but the solution requires a decision that is not easy. To not be driving means I have to turn the wheel over to someone else. To turn the wheel over to someone else all comes down to an issue of trust and faith. Because in truth, we wouldn’t let someone drive our car (or truck or SUV) who we don’t trust or if we had little faith in their driving abilities.

Fortunately for us, we have someone who is willing to take the wheel and He has proven Himself worthy of our trust and faith. God is quite capable of navigating through the mire of our lives. Jesus’ life alone is a perfect example of a life lived in the control of God’s. No, it wasn’t “perfect” according to the world’s standards, but really whose is? The important thing is that Jesus trusted in the Father and in return He lived with joy and a peace like the world had never seen before.

So, will you hand the steering wheel of your own life over to God? He knows your life’s road from start to finish and He loves you so much that He will only lead you where He knows you need to be. And not only will your life be less cluttered because of God’s gentle control, but your faith in Him will only naturally increase along your life’s journey. As Rick Joyner said:

We often think of great faith as something that happens spontaneously so that we can be used for a miracle or healing. However, the greatest faith of all, and the most effective, is to live day-by-day trusting Him. It is trusting Him so much that we look at every problem as an opportunity to see His work in our life. It is not worrying, but rather trusting and abiding in the peace of God that will crush anything that Satan tries to do to us. If the Lord created the world out of chaos, He can easily deal with any problem that we have.

Those words speak much truth and leave us with this decision: do we continue running our own lives ineffectively or do we turn the control over to someone who understands this life more than we ever could? As mentioned, it’s definitely not an easy decision to make, but exercising our free will in this one choice can make the difference between just another life lived or a life experienced to the fullest. God has left us the options: the choice is all up to you and me.

[Kristen McNulty is a twenty-one-year-old university student who lives in Timmins, Ontario, Canada. In her free time she hosts and produces the syndicated Making A Difference (MAD) Christian Radio Show]

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