Social media. We all know it can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it’s an incredible tool for connection and inspiration; on the other, it’s a playground for comparison and sometimes toxicity. Like many of you, I’ve struggled with this. I once found myself spiraling through endless posts, questioning my choices and wondering if my life measured up to the curated highlights flashing on my screen. It wasn’t until I took a step back, reflected on how I was using social media and made intentional changes that I found a way to use it to enrich my spiritual life instead of letting it drain my energy.
The truth is, while social media and smartphones have gained a notorious reputation over the years, especially within the Christian community, they aren’t inherently bad. Yes, online interactions can sometimes make us less empathetic and more isolated, but they also hold the potential for significant spiritual growth and community building. Instead of simply labeling social media as a “bad habit,” let’s explore how we can harness its power for good.
Start With a Social Media Fast
Before making any meaningful changes, I highly recommend starting with a social media fast. Taking a full week off from all platforms can be incredibly liberating. You might want to delete apps from your phone to resist temptation or use browser blockers like StayFocusd, WasteNoTime or Self-Control.
The goal of this fast isn’t to deprive yourself but to create space to reconnect with God and reflect on your current habits. Use this time to engage in Scripture, pray and ask God for guidance on how to reshape your digital interactions. The awareness you’ll gain during this week can prime your heart for positive change and deepen your relationship with God. Then, you can start to engage with social media in a new and productive way.
Clean Up Your Feed
After completing your fast, it’s time to transform your social media experience. Start by unfollowing, unfriending or evne blocking pages or people who consistently post content that feels toxic or contradicts your values. For family or friends you can’t unfriend, consider muting their posts. The goal is to create a feed that uplifts and inspires you, not one that tears you down and keeps you from growing closer to God and His people.
Unfollow accounts that trigger comparison, jealousy or negative self-image. This includes companies, celebrities or even influencers who, despite their positive messages, leave you feeling inadequate. Recognize this act not as a sign of weakness but as an essential step in caring for your mental and spiritual well-being.
Fill Your Feed With Positivity
Now, actively seek out and follow accounts that bring positivity, encouragement, and truth into your life. Engage with content that resonates with you—comment, like, and share. Doing so helps curate a feed full of Scripture, uplifting messages, and authentic voices.
Before following anyone new, spend a little time researching them. Look at their past posts, explore their websites and read any statements of faith they may have shared. This ensures that your feed aligns with your values and beliefs.
Cultivate an Online Community
Social media isn’t just about consuming content; it’s about building community. Join or start a prayer or Bible study group on platforms like Facebook or Instagram. Participate in discussions, offer encouragement, and find accountability partners for your spiritual journey. These online connections can be as meaningful as those you make in person.
It’s equally important to leave any groups that breed negativity or claim to be Christian but don’t promote kindness and understanding. Be discerning about where you invest your time and energy.
Use Social Media as a Prayer List
Social media feeds often read like a running list of people’s joys and struggles. Use these posts as prompts for prayer. When you see a friend going through a tough time or celebrating a milestone, take a moment to pray for them. This practice doesn’t have to be complicated. A simple, heartfelt prayer can make a world of difference.
For example, if a friend shares a frustrating day, a quick prayer like, “Lord, please speak to [friend’s name] and encourage her spirit. Let her feel your love and peace today. Amen,” can have a profound impact.
Set Boundaries for Social Media Use
While leveraging social media for good, it’s crucial to set boundaries. Take regular breaks or fasts from social media to refresh and realign your focus. Designate certain areas in your home as “no phone zones,” such as your bedroom or dining area, and set specific times when you go device-free, like after 9 p.m. or before noon.
Prioritize being present with the people around you. Social media can wait when you’re spending quality time with friends or family. I’m preaching to myself here, too—it’s a lesson we all need to remember.
Be a Light in the Digital World
Despite your best efforts, you’ll still encounter negativity and unkindness on social media. See these moments as opportunities to be a light for others. Practice empathy, listen before responding, and avoid the temptation to react with anger or defensiveness. As James 1:19 says, be “quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.”
Remember, you don’t have to agree with someone to show them love. Engage with others respectfully, even in disagreement, and reflect Christ’s love in all interactions.
Social media can be a blessing and a way to express genuine, Christ-like love for others, but this requires intentionality and commitment to healthy boundaries. With effort and intention, you can shape your social media experience into something that glorifies God and nurtures your soul. Let’s embrace the challenge and transform social media from a potential stumbling block into a tool that deepens our relationship with God.
