How to Go Church Shopping

Figuring out what really matters when searching for a faith community.

BY RELEVANT GOD / CHURCH September 17, 2009

Church hunting. Church shopping. Finding a church home. Whatever you want to call it, it’s a necessary process for most of us as we step out of the churches where we grew up and into the unfamiliar.
For the first time, we’re faced with making the "where do I go to
church?" decision on our own, without much input from parents,
friends or even a sturdy community.



And there’s that word: "community." Every time the word "church" is


used in


the Bible, it


implies


a group of people and never a building. So whether church-shopping Christ


ians attend a


mega or a storefront church, what they should search for is a community to enter int


o, not a building to frequent. “


We aren’t crea


ted to be as isolated as we are,” says Whitney Stevens,


whose recent move brought her to a multi-cultural church in the heart of a city


. “


But i


t’s harder to be involved in a community, it




s not as comfo


rtable, you don’t like everyone …


but you grow and grow.


“I


t makes things a lot more difficult because it is lonely


to go to some place by yourself. And I’m social!” she continues.


"


I


f I was


going by comfort level and feelings, I probably wouldn’t have gone to church.


It made me


go out on a limb and meet people.



W


hen shopping for most products


, most people have an idea of what they want. Just like some people will always buy


Chuck Taylors


because that’s what they’ve always


bought


, some people settle into a church because it is a familiar denomination or style. That’s not necessarily wrong, just like


Chucks


aren’t a bad thing; but choosing a


community to enter into is a more serious decision than how you will look on Saturday night.


So wh


y should someone choose a church


? For Pastor Nick Nye of the


Veritas


Community


Church


in


Columbus


,


Ohio


, the answer is all about family.




It’


s the people that you’re comm


itted to, the fact you are committing


to something outside of just


yourself, to the cause of the G


ospel


,” he says. “


[You should look to find]


a


place you


[can be]


invested in. 


I think people should have an attitude of want


ing


to find a real home, not just a hotel room for the night


[a place where they can say


,]


‘T


his is my family, my home, where I protect and defend and where I invite people to.’"

The community thing



Community and how it is expressed has as ma


ny forms as there are fast-food joints; travel from place to place and the landscapes and styles change


. Even how someone finds a church is changing and evolv


ing with the advent of social networking and online community.


Think
of how people would search for a church; instead of the Yellow Pages,
they’re much more likely to consult Google or other online tools.
Websites have become more important than ever for churches, so s


ome like


Discovery


Church


in


Orlando


,


Fla.,


are trying to take community into the website, making it interactive.


“Taking
our cue from LifeChurch.tv, who pioneered this idea, we have church
online,” says Discovery online pastor Bernard DeLoach. “


Just like the lobby of church,


the chat ‘lobby’ is


opened up 15 minutes before church.


T


he s


ame conversations happening in the lobby of the church


happen on the chat board. We have connection groups online, too, with someone leading them and trying to go deeper.”


It is no coincidence all these churches are trying to build community, but t


here needs to be a purpose for the community


.


So


what is


it


? Is it simply to get together once a week and praise God together, or is there more?




P


art of the church’s role


is to


be among people, for the community


,


reaching out


and


spreading the name of Jesus, showing what it looks like


to live a Christ-centered life,” says Matt Bubalo, a marri


ed mental health tech who recently moved


and found a church home of his own


.


“There’s a need for a blend of action and doctrine.”

Finding Christ and Christ crucified



As
churches get more creative in attempting to attract new members with
catchy websites and more programming, what are the essentials someone should look for? Sunday services are changing as fast as
culture changes, offering a dizzying blend of church forms,
music—everything from the latest praise music to ancient forms of
taize—developing programming for kids and many, many more options, all
of which will affect how someone chooses a church. A


nd that’s just on


Sunday.


“[People need to ask] n


ot just ‘where is the cool band, the cool preaching, the r


elevant music,’ any of that junk,” Nye says. “


Wha


t place is preaching the Gospel, what


church is all about


Jesus Christ and Him crucified,


not just, ‘Hey we have all these flashy programs and kids ministry.’


Is the program tak


ing the place of Jesus, of the


G


ospel?


If I was new, I would go in with the mindset of ‘I will take a church that has a bad band or pretty crappy kids min


istry that preaches the Gospel.’"


While
the Bible seems to make it clear that we are intended to enter into
community commonly called "church," what is the responsibility of that
church?




Our chur


ch has three rhythms,” Nye says. “C


ommunity service (serving the world, our community, the down and out, up and out), learning (discipleship and study,


hearing the Word


preached,

preaching the Gospel to each other) and mission (advancing the Gospel,
church planting, global missions). Those are three things that every
church should have as [part of] their


DNA


.



For DeLoach at Discovery, one of the things he


sees as necessary

is connection groups. In these smaller groups that meet outside of the
Sunday service, people have the opportunity to dive deeper into each
other’s lives.


“I think they are


critical to any Christian walk,” he said. “In the REVEAL Study


(a church analysis study)


, we found


involving other people in his or her life


causes a person to continue moving forward in their spir


itual journey


. I’m married


, which is community,


and I also have frien


d


s


and it is [these connections that]


spur me on, even though by nature I am an introvert.


Embrace the familial messiness


And, of course, m


ost churches won’t fit exactly into the ideal mold.


Because
of size, budget, leadership or any number of factors, churches mimic
our human condition as Christians: fallen but striving to follow the
Master. So what responsibility does a potential church-goer have toward
entering into the messiness of community?




I think it’s a difficult thing, weighing a church that suits you,


where


you will be spiritually fed, b


ut also a place where you can impact the church, a


place where you can have a role,” Bubalo says.




It


is the


[


John F.


]


Kennedy


quote applied to


church: ‘


Ask not w


hat


your church can do for you but


what you can


d


o for your


church.’


You don’t just want to be a consumer.



The
challenges involved in weighing all these options also involve the fact
that it is a place that is new; goodbye to old friends and hello to the
awkward conversations that always involve the same questions: “What do
you do?” “Who do you know at this church?” Finding a church is not
always


comfortable or ideal, but families are


never


perfect. I


f the church you find reflects a community seeking after God, it may not always be easy, but it will always be worth it.


Chris Rule is an editorial intern at RELEVANT.


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