BY RELEVANT GOD / FAITH June 07, 2012

No other experience can truly compare to the combined feelings of self-doubt, embarrassment, guilt and anger that have come to define a broken heart. Our pop culture understands this—at any one time, at least half of the songs on the Billboard Top 20 are either barbs aimed at ex-partners or laments over “the one that got away.” According to one study, the physiological effects of a non-mutual breakup are nearly identical to the symptoms of a person recovering from an adverse drug addiction.


But in the aftermath of a breakup, don’t miss the opportunity to take advantage of that time to learn valuable insights about yourself and the nature of God. As C.S. Lewis famously said, God “shouts in our pains,” but those shouts can fall on deaf ears if we don’t know what we’re listening for.

I can relate to this, because the semester before I graduated college, the girl I’d dated for over three and half years abruptly decided to end our relationship.

For at least two months afterward, I was a complete wreck. I barely slept. I struggled through my classes. Walking around campus or driving around town became a punishment unique unto itself. I likened it traversing a minefield spring-loaded with dormant memories waiting to further perforate my soul with emotional shrapnel. Harboring hope she would realize the mistake she’d made, I clung feverishly to the false illusion of our love being restored in one romantic fell swoop of forgiveness and understanding. But that moment never came.   

After two months of wallowing in self-pity, I realized my behavior was in no way a reflection of the character of Christ. As I began to evaluate my relationship with God in the aftermath of my breakup, I became more and more discouraged with what I found.

Even though I claimed to be Christian and was involved in multiple ministry organizations, for over three years my life had revolved around my relationship with my girlfriend. Pouring a majority of my passion, time, creativity and money into our relationship, I had elevated it above my relationship with God. It had become my idol, and I based my identity around the affections of another person. I was pursuing what Tim Keller refers to in his book Counterfeit Gods as “apocalyptic romance.”
    

God will often use the things and people we love most in this world to break us the hardest. If He doesn’t have your full attention now, He will demand it from you later. Even at the expense of great pain and heartache, God is far more concerned about our holiness than our happiness. 
  

It hurts when God intervenes and corrects our plans, especially the plans we hold dear to our heart. But it’s supposed to. We need to be reminded that we aren’t in control. Because we inhabit a fallen world, very rarely do our plans line up with God’s plan. This is why plans of a best laid nature often go awry.

So open your ears, turn the music down and listen to what God is trying to tell you. It’s probably something you need to hear. 
  

In the early weeks following my breakup, one of my friends told me that if I truly loved my ex-girlfriend I should continue to pursue her and attempt to win back her affections. Frankly, it’s one of the worst pieces of advice I’ve ever received. Contrary to the teachings of Disney films, Top 40 Radio, and romantic comedies, don’t follow your heart, because according the prophet Jeremiah, the heart is “deceitful above all things.” Instead of following your heart, you need to follow Jesus.
 

According to Psalms 34:18, “the Lord will draw near to the brokenhearted and crushed in spirit.” But this means nothing if we don’t also attempt to draw near to Him. During life’s struggles, we should ask, “How can I best use this situation to bring You glory?”
    

For some of us, this may mean having an actual daily quiet time with the Lord, not just a pithy devotional reading before bed. For others, it might be volunteering in the inner city, starting a small group Bible study or going on a long-term mission trip.     
    

Let me be clear. I’m not saying that God will magically remove your pain because you start having quiet times; He shouldn’t be used as a spiritual Band-Aid for your heartache. Your motive for seeking God should always be God, not what He can do for you. My wounds still ache, and I fear the ghost of this relationship may haunt me for some time, but I’ve made peace and come to terms with what happened. 
  

In the end, I guess you could make the argument that I did rebound quickly after my breakup. But it wasn’t with another girl. No, I fell in love with the one true God. Though it took a broken heart, I rediscovered the most vital and vibrant relationship in my life that I had been neglecting for far too long.
    

The greatest thing about this relationship is that my Lord will never forsake me, He will always keep His promises, and He never makes empty declarations of eternal love.

RELEVANT

17 thoughts on “Making the Most of a Breakup

  1. Distracting yourself to activities that you love will help a lot in over thinking her. In this way, keeping your mind busy with other stuffs that creates a positive mood and makes you happy won’t bother you of your feelings for her. In every relationship that ended whether in a good way or in a bad one, you could always expect for a pain. The pain is unbearable, but you have to cope up. It’s easy to say that you have to move on, but the process of moving on is not that easy. In this phase of your life, you have to evaluate yourself and assess what has been broken for you to start all over again. I know, the process wouldn’t be easy, but keep in mind that in God’s perfect time, all wounds will healed.

  2. I was crushed when my lover of three years left to be with another woman. I cried and sobbed every day, until it got so bad that I reached out to the Internet for help.And i saw a testimony of a spell caster who help a girl called michelle and i said let me give it a try so i contact him for help and he cast a love spell for me which i use in getting my love back and now i am a happy woman.Foe what you have done for me,i will not stop to share your goodness to people out there for the good work you are doing.I hope God blesses you as much as you have help me to get my Love back,visit him on ultimatespelltemple1@gmail.com,he is the only answer to your problems ultimatespelltemple1@gmail.com

  3. My Name is Jenny Joe from USA, I am one of the happiest people on earth today because today my two years run away lover came back to me on his knees with tears on his eye begging me to forgive him and accept him back, Dr. Dele, a great Spell caster made this possible with the help a powerful love spell. I saw his email on the internet where a girl posted on how Dr. Dele brought back her lover so i decided to contact him. He told me that everything will be fine and now i am happy because Dr. Dele is a man of his word because of the way he encouraged me until when the spell is done.

    You can contact him with this email address if you are having any relationship problem dr.delespiritualtemple@gmail.com

  4. After been paid thousands of dollars to other spell caster and got no results at all.. When i thought i wont ever see her again and I had given up all hope of getting her back. that was when I discovered ‘Astro spell’.. After My wife had been gone for about 18 months, I contacted Astro spell and within a few minutes of speaking with him, I realized he is one person whom I could completely trust. I didn’t expect the spell would work so fast. My wife is back in my life now.” I even got roses from her today and i’m so happy that we will be spending more time together… I’ll never ever forget Astro spell and all the happiness that is back into my life. I will still use Astro spell again for further work in the future. You can contact him on astrospells@gmail.com.

    Ivan from london, United Kingdom.

  5. My Name is Stacey Fernandez, From Canada I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called Dr Asije has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost Ex husband to me with his great spell within 24 hours. I was married to my husband Alans Evans, we were together for a long time and we loved our self’s but when I was unable to give him a child for 2 years he left me and told me he can’t continue anymore then I was now looking for ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave his contact email(drasijesolutionhome@gmail.com)then you won’t believe this when I contacted this man on my problems he prepared cast a very strong spell for me and bring my lost husband back within 24hrs, and after a month I miss my monthly period and went for a test and the result showed that i was pregnant. i am happy today am a mother of a baby girl, thank you once again the great Dr Asije for what you have done for me.Contact him on his private email drasijesolutionhome@gmail.com if you are out there passing through any of this problems or predicaments in your life. his private website is http://drasijesolutionhome.webs.com

    1) If you want your ex back.
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  6. Message to Dr. Dele (Spell Caster). My name is Irene Gary from USA whom you casted love spell for last month. I want to specially thank you for the love spell you cast for me, my ex-boyfriend came back to me 3 days after you cast the spell for me and he said to me that he is very sorry for leaving me and I also have been selected for the interview I went for early this month, I know all this are your power. Please help me thank Dr. Dele. I have noticed that your spells do not have any negative effect because my relationship has grown stronger, but every time I have ordered with you the most astonishing and wonderful things have happened, it’s always been an amazing with my man and very soon we will get married.

    Please contact Dr. Dele because it’s great to know that there is a helping hand out there whenever I feel the need for it, he is indeed a great spell caster and with him your problems will be solve. His email address is dr.delespiritualtemple@gmail.com

  7. Hello i am Sandra Caparas,I am out here to spreed this good news to the entire world on how i got my ex love back.I was going crazy when my love left me for another girl last month,But when i meet a friend that introduce me to Priest Oduma the great messenger to the oracle that he serve,I narrated my problem to Priest Oduma about how my ex love left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,In the next 2 days,My love called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact Priest Oduma at the following email address: spellofsolution@gmail.com and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve…………………….Contact him direct on: spellofsolution@gmail.com . OR call him on his cell number +2348153363047 and get your problems solve like me..

    1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) if you always have bad dreams.
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) You want to be rich.
    (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
    yours forever.
    (8) If you need financial assistance.
    (9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.
    (10)if you want to stop your divorce.
    (11)if you want to divorce your husband.
    (12)if you want your wishes to be granted.
    (13) Pregnancy spell tp conceive baby
    (14)Guarantee you win the troubling court cases & divorce no matter how what stage
    (15)Stop your marriage or relationship from breaking apart.

  8. Hello i am Sandra Caparas,I am out here to spreed this good news to the entire world on how i got my ex love back.I was going crazy when my love left me for another girl last month,But when i meet a friend that introduce me to Priest Oduma the great messenger to the oracle that he serve,I narrated my problem to Priest Oduma about how my ex love left me and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,In the next 2 days,My love called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in my desired company were i needed to work as the managing director..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact Priest Oduma at the following email address: spellofsolution@gmail.com and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve…………………….Contact him direct on: spellofsolution@gmail.com . OR call him on his cell number +2348153363047 and get your problems solve like me..

    1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) if you always have bad dreams.
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) You want to be rich.
    (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
    yours forever.
    (8) If you need financial assistance.
    (9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.
    (10)if you want to stop your divorce.
    (11)if you want to divorce your husband.
    (12)if you want your wishes to be granted.
    (13) Pregnancy spell to conceive baby
    (14)Guarantee you win the troubling court cases & divorce no matter how what stage
    (15)Stop your marriage or relationship from breaking apart.

  9. This is my testimonial on how DR Lawrence of drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail. com brought back my lover within 48 hours, I came across DR Lawrence email address through my search in the net few days ago, so i emailed him about my condition and how my lover left me. He told me it would take him only 48 hours to get my ex back to me, my ex called me before 48 hours begging me to forgive him and forget about the past and he is ready to make up for lost time.drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail. com

  10. hank you to the Spirits for getting me my man back. Thank you Papa ogbefispell@gmail.com for taking the time to do the spell for bringing my man back to me. I went to 3 different spell casters, but only you got the job done. I really wasn’t sure anymore if spells were real, but now I know they are. Like I said before I appreciate all your time, effort, and energy you put during the spell cast. He is more open and he admitted he loves me and really wants to try n a relationship with me again. After a year of seperartion we are now back together, and he plans to move in when his lease is up. THANK YOU PAPA ogbefispell@gmail.com ………Jean

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  12. This is a very joyful day of my life because of the help Dr.Shiva has rendered to me by helping me get my ex husband back with his magic and love spell. i was married for 6 years and it was so terrible because my husband was really cheating on me and was seeking for a divorce but when i came across Dr.Shiva email on the internet on how he help so many people to get thier ex back and help fixing relationship.and make people to be happy in their relationship. i explained my situation to him and then seek his help but to my greatest surprise he told me that he will help me with my case and here i am now celebrating because my Husband has change totally for good. He always want to be by me and can not do anything without my present. i am really enjoying my marriage, what a great celebration. i will keep on testifying on the internet because Dr.Shiva is truly a real spell caster. DO YOU NEED HELP THEN CONTACT DOCTOR SHIVA NOW VIA EMAIL: reunitingexspell@yahoo.com or call +2347051705853 or reunitingexspell2@gmail.com . He is the only answer to your problem and make you feel happy in your relationship.

    Hi My name is “Blenda” just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage,because i really love my husband so much that i can not even do without him. I was married for 15years with my husband and 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that he filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me cause i loved him with all my heart and didn’t want to loose him but everything just didn’t work out… he moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used roots and herbs… Within 2 days he called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma he had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy with us. I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience cause I strongly believe someone out there need’s it… You can email him via (reunitingexspell@yahoo.com or reunitingexspell2@gmail.com) Don’t give up just yet, the different between “Ordinary” & “Extra-Ordinary” is the “Extra” so make extra effort to save your marriage/relationship if it’s truly worth it.call him +2347051705853

  13. Hi My name is “Blenda” just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage,because i really love my husband so much that i can not even do without him. I was married for 15years with my husband and 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that he filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me cause i loved him with all my heart and didn’t want to loose him but everything just didn’t work out… he moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used roots and herbs… Within 2 days he called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma he had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy with us. I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience cause I strongly believe someone out there need’s it… You can email him via (reunitingexspell@yahoo.com or reunitingexspell2@gmail.com) Don’t give up just yet, the different between “Ordinary” & “Extra-Ordinary” is the “Extra” so make extra effort to save your marriage/relationship if it’s truly worth it.call him +2347051705853

  14. Since prophetjakula@gmail.com cast a love spell for me, things are going great in my marriage life. my husband who was cheating on me almost every week is now a loyal and dedicated man. I’m glad he came back to me after the break up with him because I love him from the bottom of my heart, but without prophetjakula help, all of this couldn’t happen or even be possible. It is the first time I am using the service of a spell caster and even if I was a bit skeptical at first, I highly recommend his service to people like me who need an extra help.thank you prophetjakula@gmail.com

  15. I have been reading about spell casting and its powers for a while but i never thought or it never occurred to me or i rather say that it happened that i never got myself in any situation that will make need the help of a spell caster.I read a lot of testimony on the internet on web pages, blog, and some on the Facebook page of some web site i linked with my Facebook with.I was more concerned about a certain spell caster MUTTON OSUN. That his name kept appearing on almost every comment form different individual claiming he has helped them a great deal in spell casting of all kind but mostly relationship problem that is from divorced man and women to lost love and cheating wife and husband was like don’t even know the word to use.All of them had just one thing in common that he help then resolved their problem that even therapist could not solve i guess the problem was passed the place where talking was not doing any good at all.But some how i believed them and their story cos the testimony were just too real and were from different people.I just enjoyed reading how he help those people and asking myself how possible it was that this spell caster could do all this with no effect of what so ever.Year they said his spell had no negative effect on the person who asked the spell to be casted and the person the spell is casted upon.I just wanted to know how it worked so i tried it and now i am among those writing this to tell those like me reading that this MUTTON guy is real.I am a single 32 years old mom of two two girls.I have always had a thing for this guy or i would say i liked this guy but he was kind of a mess cos of the lost of his wife.Like he had nothing to leave for any more.He never came out of this house and even went he did he doesn’t talk to anybody even i tried ti make a conversation he just smile so he doesn’t look cruel and then walk away.At night you can hear him breaking things and sobbing.I wouldn’t say i knew what he was feeling cos really i didn’t know but i knew i could make him happy again but no matter how i tried to get close he shuts me out.I really liked him and hated to see him miserable i mean he still have a chance to be happy with me.Contacting MUTTON OSUN was really easy for me cos all those other article had an email address i could use to contact him.So i send him an email to him but i didn’t get a responses immediately i mean it took three day before i saw his mail in response to my mail where he told me that he could help me make the guy to love.Am sorry i can mention my name or his cos i really don’t know who is writing this thing i am writing.Any way i was not allowed to tell any one till i have seen the result and important he told me i needed some materials for the spell casting.Most people tend to thinking his asking you to pay for the spell but not you have the choice to buy these materials and send them to him or you can ask that he get them for you if you can get the materials or the cost of buy and ship them to him is to much.In my case i gave him money to get the materials cos it was way less expansive.I guess he made some kind of harmless powdery substance with those materials and sent them over to me.He asked that i follow this instructions on how to make the spell active which i did.I must warn you it take at least two day to be effective cos it was after two days the man that never talks to me knocked at my door asking if i would like to watch movies with him at his place form there we kicked off.We have been together for 4 months now and still counting he is a really nice man i can am the luckiest woman in the world.I mean this only means that what MUTTON did is working and it changed both our life for good.I will also leave his mail here you contact purpose >> godsofosunx@rocketmail.com

  16. My name is Handford Ann,i base in canada.i want to share my wonderful testimony on how i got back my ex-lover of my life back, who i sworn to be with until when he left me to another woman for no reason and i try to make things work for both of us yet things where getting worse and i love him so much and there is nothing i could do to get my ex back until i met a testimony share by Maria from USA on the internet talking about a powerful spell caster who brought his ex lover back within 48hours and i decide to give it a try and to my greatest surprise he also did it for me just as he did for Maria and i have a lot of people complaining of fake spell caster but this one i met was a real spell caster who help me to solve my problem i have no solution to,i introduce many of my best friends that have a similar problems,and their problem were solve with the great help of dr.Trust.they get back their ex within 48 hours.i am so happy that my ex is back to me again,and the most surprise,is that our love is very strong,every day is happiness and joy. and there is nothing like been with the man you love.i am so happy my love is back to me with the help of Dr.Trust.if you have similar problem i will advice you to contact him ,he is there to help you and put a smile on your face ask he did to me and others.contact email(ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com call +2348156885231) what will i have done if not the great help of dr.trust. Thanks Handford Ann from canada.

  17. Greetings To You Viewer
    I am Prophet Osagiede Destiny, I render my steward worship with Living Faith Church in Nigeria popularly known as Winner’s Chapel. I have had series of encounter with God, which include seeing Jesus Christ four times in my revelation. Seeing the Holy Spirit appear to me in a bodily form, angels several times, also being to heaven once and hearings from God with authoritative voice, still voice and through my consciousness. God has asked me to pray for his people all across the globe and I am praying for you that is reading it now.

    Whatever captivity that you are into now is destroyed by the power of the Holy Ghost. It might be sickness the Lord is healing you right now, you don’t need to see me just believe it now Luke 7 ; 7 . Every affliction ravaging your system isn’t bareness, broken relationship, poverty lost in business ,job problem, depression, blood pressure low sperm count ,menstruation issue, broken heart by boyfriend and girlfriend harassment

    I therefore decree freedom to every issue of concern in your life

    FOR PRAYER AND COUNCELLING
    Contact:
    E-mail:phrophetosagiededestiny@yahoo.com
    Or
    +2348135969386
    Or
    http://www.prophetosagiedes.wix.com

    Expect a testimony,……………….. Jesus is Lord

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