7 Things I Wish I Knew About Christianity Before Becoming A Christian

When following Jesus doesn't look quite like what you expected.


Christianity comes with a lot of expectations. Some are biblical. Some, we’ve grafted on.

Sometimes we have unrealistic expectations of what our lives will look like after accepting Christ into our lives. We think seasoned Christians have it all together, always feel close to God and never doubt.

But it doesn’t take long for those illusions to be shattered. We soon realize that following Christ doesn’t look exactly like we expected.

Here are 7 things I wish I knew about Christianity before becoming a Christian:

It’s Really Hard.

There’s a dangerous tendency to sugarcoat the Christian life and market it as an easy, joyous, successful and wonderful alternative to the “secular” existence.

The Christian faith will surely have its blissful moments, but much of it requires and demands service, sacrifice, dedication, humility, patience, forgiveness, mercy, compassion and work—the things that manifest Christ-like love. Not only is this not easy, but usually it’s extremely hard.

There’s a reason ministry leaders burnout at alarming rates, church attendance numbers decline, and friends seemingly abandon the faith—following Jesus is messy, grueling, uncomfortable and requires an extraordinary amount of time, energy, effort and grace.

Christianity is often perceived as an escape mechanism, a crutch, a way to easily avoid the harsh realities of life, but it’s the exact opposite—it’s a journey that embraces truth and confronts the world in brave, honest and often painfully difficult ways. Prepare yourself for not just the good, but also the bad—and especially the ugly.

It Doesn’t Fix Everything.

After hearing miraculous testimonies about people being healed, addictions overcome, lives transformed and being inundated with the Biblical stories of redemption, hope and reconciliation—expectations about Christianity can be pretty high.

Yes, God does amazing and unexplainable things, but eventually you’ll realize that Christianity won’t solve all your problems.

Sicknesses don’t aways go away. Broken relationships don’t always get better. Your income doesn’t improve. Simply put, troubles don’t just up and disappear. What happened?

The Christian faith is more about creating a relationship with God than finding a magic solution to all of life’s difficulties. Unfortunately, many still treat Christianity as a spiritual formula to get what they want. When the inevitable disappointment arrives, so do feelings of betrayal, cynicism, disappointment and anger. Many people abandon “Christianity” altogether because it didn’t meet their preconceived expectations—no matter how unrealistic or selfish they were.

You Won’t Have All the Answers.

The Gospel is often presented The Answer to all of life’s deepest questions, and it does give purpose and meaning to our existence, but Christianity doesn’t completely eradicate doubts, intellectual struggles and philosophical inquiries. In fact, it often brings up even more questions than answers.

Biblical content is debated by thousands of pastors, theologians and believers, and each doctrine is associated with hundreds of theories, ideas and traditions. If you’re looking for decisive, conclusive, and indisputable facts, Christianity will offer some, but ultimately, it’s about finding God—and once you find Him, the evidence will speak for itself.

You Never Stop Learning and Changing.

Your faith will change. Life happens. For example, we may grow older, get a job, meet new people, travel, understand new cultures, fall in love, get married, have kids and experience thousands of different moments that ultimately shape and influence the way we think about God.

My theology is different now than when I was in elementary school, and it changed in middle school, and after high school, and during college and once I become an adult—constantly maturing.

We often treat our faith as if it’s something static, immovable and permanent. God is eternally unchanging, but our faith isn’t. We see this throughout the Bible, as the Israelites—and even the disciples in the New Testament—had their understanding of God change as different occurrences and events happened to them.

Our faith is a “Pilgrim’s Progress” involving ups and downs and numerous changes. Many believers fearfully avoid change and see it as some sort of sin—and you can certainly go from a good belief to a bad belief—but the concept of change itself shouldn’t be avoided, especially since it’s at the very heart of Jesus’ teachings.

You’ll Still Make Mistakes.

The most dangerous and self-righteous people are those who think they’re incapable of doing anything wrong and who never admit mistakes.

To be human is to blunder. Christianity doesn’t change that. You’ll still fail, stumble and make horrible decisions, but the difference is that you’ll have the reassurance of God’s grace, mercy and love.

It’s Complex.

The term “Christian” means many different things to many different people. There are hundreds of unique denominations, thousands of different churches, and a myriad of traditions and theologies intertwined within them.

The classifications are endless. It doesn’t take long to realize that Christianity is filled with complexity, nuance and variety. There are divisions, debates and conflict, but also unity, dialogue and accountability. Overall, its way more complicated than most people realize—but God still works through it.

It’s Not Us vs. Them.

Christians often rage against secularism, the “Fallen World” and “Evil Forces.” Whether intentional or not, it can become easy to assume that Christians are engaged in a battle against non-Christians—but we’re not.

Christians are in a very real battle against evil—against Satan—but we need to be careful not to view unbelievers as the enemy. It’s easy to become completely immersed within a “Christian Bubble” and alienate yourself from the rest of humanity—self-righteously judging, shaming and fearfully avoiding the world around us.

But God loves everyone. This message is radical and controversial and absurd—but according to the Bible, it’s true, and as followers of Christ we should boldly do the same. So no matter how you feel about your faith, simply ask God to give you the strength and capacity to follow Christ’s example!

Stephen Mattson


Stephen Mattson blogs at stephenjmattson.com and you can follow him on Twitter @mikta.

2 thoughts on “7 Things I Wish I Knew About Christianity Before Becoming A Christian

  1. Dude, whoever wrote this, delete this stupid article now, it is written in such ignorance of God’s word and power. Who are you tell people that Christ can’t solve their problems, sicknesses and finances yet you claim to believe in him. To believe in Him is to believe in His word Jesus said I and my Father are one. The word became flesh meaning he is also one with his word. To believe in Him is to have faith in his word. If you in your own christian walk and experience had something not take place then that whatever hope you were holding was not faith because faith cannot fail. Jesus said you of little faith. This post is such a slap to the Holy Spirit. I feel sorry for you for how many souls you will cause to turn away from God because of your own personal ignorance to the Word, DO YOU KNOW THAT JESUS DIED FOR HIS CHURCH??! He went to hell for 3 days and came back and said cheer up I have overcome the world. Without faith it is impossible to please God, you talk about patience yet you didn’t have patience and that thing you were praying for didn’t happen and so you decide to influence others because again of your own ignorance. Jesus came to abolish religion and bring us into his life of glory, his word said the path of the righteous is like a LIGHT THAT SHINES BRIGHTER AND BRIGHTER unto the perfect day. So to plainly speak of it as just a struggle, a life of confusion and uncertainty, where “Sicknesses don’t go away, broken relationships don’t get better, your income doesn’t improve—troubles don’t disappear” WHAT IGNORANCE. You may have experienced the saving grace of God but you are not also walking that glory life and inheritance (joy, peace, favour and abundance etc) because you select what you like to read from God’s word and are ignorant of what God his been trying to really talk to you about all your life. Don’t be selective when reading or hearing God’s word, that makes you Lord of your own Christian life and for anyone else reading this remember that. Take everything that God tells you in his word seriously and with the same full attention and meditation. Now back to this author don’t you dare make up the mind for the rest of the “Secular” based on your own experience due to ignorance LISTEN, God is not playing games OKAY! People are perishing, you have been ignorant to God’s word is all. This is a Holy Anger, you have done wrong and this needed rebuke. Yes alot of that stuff has the potential to happen such as divisions etc but that’s because of people who are still ignorant to being Christ like and instead choose to make situational decisions based on their own interests and instead not based on what the love of Christ would want and so yes conflicts thrive. Read the parable of the seeds and weeds in the kingdom of heaven. Some great points such as it’s not us versus them. And by the way we are not fighting demons we are fighting a fight of faith, fighting to hold faith by holding the word God as true that whatever we face if he says we have overcome we have overcome, the demons part that’s Jesus’s battle he said I have overcome but you just hold faith and declare you victories for you are now more than conquerors. Delete this post it lacks Godly wisdom. You slapped God and called his word a liar by telling people he can’t cause Sicknesses to go away, broken relationships don’t get better, your income doesn’t improve—troubles don’t disappear, you are calling His word a liar and so basically calling HIM a liar. Your words are telling current, new born agains or potential Christians to prepare to set a limit on their faith OMG WOW!! Or even just to NOT BOTHER with the walk. Like i cannot believe this was even put up.. Jesus is tearing brother I’m telling you okay. Don’t tell people what your own version of Christianity is and instead not what the Word’s definition is just because of some of your own dissatisfactions. The bible says the word of God is spirit and it is life(living and not dead) making changes, moving “only to they that believe”. Only faith pleases God. AND omg this has been shared over 300 times already and who knows where else it’s been reposted, Jesus said my people perish for the lack of knowledge DELETE THIS!

  2. I love this article! I have always said that I believe in God not because He makes things perfect but because He is One who walks with me, never lets me go and takes my burdens away. And in a world where loneliness reigns, to know that I am eternally loved and NEVER alone is my hope, my joy, my freedom. 🙂

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