Shopping for shoes is easy. Shopping for toothbrushes: electric or purple? Simple. Shopping for a car… hmm, better bring your dad along, just in case. Shopping for investors: getting more difficult by the day.
Shopping for a date? That depends. A one-time, "let’s go bowling and then hit Dairy Queen" might be easy. However, even at this stage dating should be done carefully. Whether or not you are ready for marriage, the purpose of dating will eventually turn into the search for a life-long partner. With that in mind, every dating situation needs to be given careful consideration.
I have a trust list—a guide—to help keep my perspective and to assist my friends, who are forever having the same questions and the same problems with dating as I have had. "The Yes List" is named so because the answer to each question should, theoretically, be a resounding "Yes!" These 10 semi-objective questions are vital to consider when I’m pursuing realistic, godly romances.
1. Is he living for God with all his heart, mind, soul, and strength?
2. Is he mission-minded? Does he have a burden or a calling?
3. Is he self-aware, analytical of his spirituality and is he always trying to be a better person?
4. Is he a sensitive person? Does he think about others the same or more than he thinks about himself?
5. Is he a thinker? Does he contemplate concepts, ideas, or new ways of doing things?
6. Is he financially responsible, putting God, the church, and the ministry first? In terms of money, does he think and plan for the future?
7. Is he honest, humble, and fun loving?
8. Is he a good communicator and a good listener?
9. Does he view marriage as a partnership on every level, yet recognize his spiritual responsibility as a husband and a father and is he able to take on that responsibility in the fear of God?
10. Does he have blue eyes? (Black hair is preferable, but can be compromised.)
Make your own yes list and prioritize what important characteristics you’d like your future partner to have. Although the person you’re interested in may not measure up completely in all areas, don’t feel you have to compromise if the balance is off. Remember if the person is lacking in some areas you feel are important, it will no doubt affect all others.
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