Every friend group has types. There’s the planner, the one who always forgets their wallet and the one who’s mysteriously busy whenever someone needs help moving. But if you’ve been in a Christian friend group long enough, you’ll start to notice a different set of personalities emerging—ones that seem suspiciously… biblical.
At some point, you realize there’s a Paul, a Peter and, whether they like it or not, a Judas. Paul is the one always leading the group prayer (whether you asked them to or not). Peter is the chaotic one who volunteers for everything and follows through on almost nothing. And Judas? Well, Judas bailed on tonight’s plans but “really wishes they could be there.”
If none of these sound like you, buckle up—you’re about to find out exactly where you fall.
The Paul: The One Who Low-Key Thinks They’re in Charge
Paul takes the group chat seriously. They’re the one who actually tries to make small group happen every week and sends sermon links like it’s their job. They have a burden for the group’s spiritual growth, which is why they keep suggesting devotionals that no one reads.
Paul also has strong opinions about what the group should be doing. If you’re at a restaurant, they’re the one saying, “Hey guys, what if we pray before we eat?” If someone brings up a life problem, they have a Bible verse ready. They’re not necessarily wrong—they just take their role as “unofficial group spiritual leader” a little too seriously.
Key Traits: Loves a good accountability check-in, somehow knows everyone’s spiritual gifts, texts “Praying for you!” at least once a week.
Friendship Pros: They will absolutely encourage you.
Friendship Cons: Hanging out can sometimes feel like a leadership seminar.
The Peter: The One Who Means Well but Absolutely Overcommits
Peter is enthusiasm first, logistics never. They volunteer for things before hearing the details, start sentences with “Dude, I just feel like we should…” and get way too emotionally invested in group worship night. They mean to be on time, they meant to follow through on their Bible reading plan, but, well…
They’re also the friend who feels everything. They will cry in worship, dramatically declare what God is teaching them and probably try to start a group fast. You love them, but sometimes you have to remind them to think before acting—like maybe don’t quit your job before figuring out what’s next.
Key Traits: Easily hyped, prone to making bold declarations, has at least one “wild testimony” story.
Friendship Pros: Passionate, loyal, will absolutely back you up in an argument.
Friendship Cons: Occasionally disappears mid-project.
The Judas: The One Who Will Drop the Group for a Better Offer
We all want to think our friend group doesn’t have a Judas. But if your plans rely on a group text, you already know who’s about to betray you.
Judas is the friend who says they’re coming but suddenly has “something come up.” The one who “just needs a chill night” but somehow ends up at a different friend’s game night instead. They aren’t necessarily bad, they just… keep their options open.
And yes, sometimes the betrayal is financial. Maybe they still owe you $16. Maybe they offered to pick up coffee and conveniently “forgot” what you ordered. Maybe you spotted them at brunch with people they definitely said they weren’t that close with. Whatever it is, you notice.
Key Traits: Bad at texting back, suspiciously noncommittal, usually the first to leave a group hang.
Friendship Pros: Fun when they’re around.
Friendship Cons: Rarely around.
So, Who Are You?
If you’re still unsure, just wait until your group tries to make dinner plans. If you’re leading the charge with an in-depth breakdown of the best options, you’re Paul. If you suggest five different places and then say, “Let’s just go anywhere,” you’re Peter. And if you suddenly stop responding… well.
Now, send this to your group chat. And if someone suspiciously doesn’t respond, you definitely found your Judas.
