Apparently, asking someone out face-to-face is a lost art for Gen Z.
Recent research from DatePsychology found that 45% of men ages 18 to 25 have never asked a woman out in person. Instead, most are relying on dating apps, DMs and other forms of digital communication to make a move.
The study points to a few familiar culprits: rising social anxiety, fear of rejection and a growing dependence on screens for conversation.
“People have become accustomed to digital communication as the default,” the researchers note. “As a result, real-world social skills are not being practiced as often, leading to increased anxiety and uncertainty in face-to-face interactions.”
It’s a trend that tracks with broader shifts among Gen Z, where relationships are more likely to start online than across a crowded room. Apps have made connection more accessible—but they’ve also made it easier to avoid the risks (and awkwardness) of putting yourself out there.
The findings also line up with other recent studies showing that many young adults are delaying or opting out of traditional dating altogether, citing everything from mental health struggles to career pressure to post-pandemic social exhaustion.
For now, digital-first dating is becoming the new normal. But whether swiping replaces the adrenaline rush of a real-life ask—that’s still up for debate.
