relationships

Making the Most of Any Relationship Status

Whatever your relationship status, relationships can be consuming. Those who lack one fixate on getting…

4 Ways to Help a Hurting Friend

Editor’s note: This piece originally ran in 2019. A couple of years ago my life…

Why Is Christian Dating So Weird?

Christian dating can be awkward and downright weird sometimes. But let’s be fair. All dating is awkward—for…

The One Thing No One Tells You About Getting Married

If you’ve been to a wedding, you’ve experienced the beauty of witnessing two souls binding…

Why Marriage Shouldn’t End Your Dating Life

Dating—in person, online or blind—is prized in our culture, and most of us think of…

How the Church Makes People Terrified of Sex

There’s a shirt my youth pastor used to wear that said, “I practice safe sex.…

8 Things You Should Never Say to Your Single Friends

“It’s OK, your Prince Charming is out there!” I was told recently. Frozen smile on…

9 Questions to Ask When Your Relationship Starts Getting Serious

Is this “The ONE?” When I was dating I remember constantly being smothered with that…

Marriage Isn’t About Your Happiness

Did you ever think someone could show you love through a bologna sandwich? I didn’t…

7 Truths About Marriage You Won’t Hear in Church

Ever wish you had the answers to a test before you walked into the classroom?…

How to Go on an Actual Date

Ask 20 people what a “date” means or looks like and you will get 20…

Everything My Church Taught Me About Sex and Marriage Is Wrong

As a sixth grader, I went to a big Christian summer camp where the speaker…

6 Signs Your Relationship Shouldn’t Last

Often when I’m counseling a person who has just experienced a break-up, I ask them…

Your Spouse Isn’t Your ‘Significant Other’

Find out how you can get on the same page with your spouse. Take this…

Here’s How to Find True Love

“I do.” These are the words many single young adults dream of saying. I remember…

9 Stages of Every Millennial Breakup

Oh great, it’s time to break up. On the one hand, congrats! This is a…

Everything You Need to Know About Buying an Engagement Ring

So, it’s time. You think it’s time anyway. How do people know? Do you ever…

Dating Tips for Tipping on Dates

Taking someone out to eat at an elegant or even a semi-decent restaurant (not Chili’s)…

Dear Twenty-Year-Old, Single Me

Dear Twenty-Year-Old Single Me,   It’s November 14, 2012. Someone you know just got engaged,…

Why Is Dating So Hard?

She plopped down in the seat across from me with a heavy sigh. Two weeks,…

What’s ‘Love’ Got to Do With It?

Gus and Bertie set off on a semi-obligatory first date in a well-dented Toyota Prius.…

Is It OK for Married People to Text the Opposite Sex?

When I was young, I never liked when my mom and dad would close the…

What Does ‘Guarding Your Heart’ Even Mean?

If you’ve been around Christians and Church circles long, you’ve probably heard the phrase “guard…

Don’t Let Romance Be Another Day on the Calendar

 Valentine’s Day this year looks something like this: My husband went work, and I went…

Studies: Loneliness Can Make You Sick, Like Really Sick

Your parents were right: You need to make friends. Companionship and our ability to cooperate…

Everyone Loves Sex. So Why Wait?

When I met my wife, it was like we had known each other for years.…

Healthy Couples Don’t Ignore the Work

Every now and then, I run across a couple who has it figured out. Somehow,…

‘Missionary Dating’ Isn’t Just Unbiblical, It’s Selfish

You’d recognize that familiar “I met someone” starry-eyed glow anywhere. “He’s so good to me.…

Marriage Isn’t the Ultimate Way to Grow Spiritually

Jesus isn’t just a big deal to Christians. He’s the centerpiece, the whole point. He’s…

The One Surefire Way to Ruin Your Marriage

We all know the scene. After ending a once-in-a-lifetime relationship, Noah writes Allie 365 letters…

‘Third Wheels’ Are Actually Great for Your Relationship

My doors were opened, and dinner was paid for. Anecdote-prompted laughter, a dive into the…

3 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship You Can’t Ignore

Contrary to popular belief, emotional abuse can be just as devastating to a victim as…

Waiting for Marriage Doesn’t Mean You’ll Have a Great Sex Life

A couple I knew had been dating for two years and remained abstinent until their…

7 Non-Negotiables In Every Relationship

Many 20- and 30-somethings are looking for “the one.” And regardless of whether they exist…

There’s a Critical Difference Between Infatuation and Love

Very few things feel like the blissful months that accompany a new dating relationship. You…

13 Signs Your Relationship Is Moving Way Too Fast

We live in a culture of instant gratification and immediate pleasure. We want things fast…

3 Ways to Fight Sexual Temptation Within Marriage

Singles and newlyweds alike often assume that, after getting hitched, married sex resolves the issue…

How Your ‘Fantasies’ Can Ruin Real Relationships

I recently overheard two women discussing their fantasy boyfriends over coffee. They were chatting about…

5 Conversations You Need to Have Before Getting Married

Until death do us part is a really long time to love and cherish a…

5 Things All Healthy Couples Do When They Date

There was a time in my life where I wondered if I was crazy. I…