Culture’s Worst Lies About Falling In Love
As a teenager, I read my fair share of Christian romance novels. They were full of dramatic plot lines, sexual tension, one-room school houses and Canadian Mounties. The leading men…
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There's more to "falling in love" than pop-culture would have you believe.
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12 Things Every Healthy Dating Relationship Needs
We’re entering the holiday season, which is both good and bad. Good, because we get rockin’ things like pumpkin pie, Christmas lights and carols, Jesus’ birthday, and a fresh start…
3 Things True Love Is Not
No other word in human language has been misconstrued, mistrusted, celebrated, worshipped and cursed more than love. We all want love, right? But do we have any clue what love…
Things It’s OK to Feel When You’re Single
Singles are staying single longer and longer. Advicers are dishing advice quicker and quicker. If there is a favorite pastime among blogs, married people, self-help books and your engaged friend…
The Secret Enemy in Your Marriage
We had been married just over a year. After another demanding week at work, neither of us wanted to get into it. And with changes going on in our families,…
4 Ways to Help a Hurting Friend
A couple of years ago my life was upended. You probably know the type of thing I’m referring to—a major loss, a game changer. The devastation uprooted me, so it…
11 Things You Need to Know About Dating
I never thought I’d be unmarried for all of my 20s. Like so many of my peers, I was surprised by how hard—and sometimes fruitless—dating had become. Wasn’t it supposed…
Have We Made an Idol Out of Sexual Purity?
I’ll never forget the look on her face as she shared the story of her dark sexual past, with tears welling up in her eyes. But the ironic thing is,…
How to Find the Beauty in a ‘Boring’ Marriage
The first challenge most marriages must endure does not come from trials and tribulation, but ordinary life. A mild disillusionment replaces newlywed euphoria as the echoes of wedding bells give…
Marriage Isn’t About Your Happiness
Did you ever think someone could show you love through a bologna sandwich? I didn’t think so either. Until I found out that my then-boyfriend-now-husband (a poor, broke, medical school…
How the Church Makes People Terrified of Sex
There’s a shirt my youth pastor used to wear that said, “I practice safe sex. Instead of crossing my fingers I cross my legs.” He told us guys want to…
Why There’s No Such Thing As a Soul Mate
I got an email from a young man who was feeling frustrated with relationships. He had recently asked a girl on a date and had been turned down. She explained…
7 Truths About Marriage You Won’t Hear in Church
Ever wish you had the answers to a test before you walked into the classroom? Maybe some of you did have the answers, but you better keep that to yourself.…
5 Dating Mistakes You’re Probably Making
There are so many mistakes to be made when it comes to dating and relationships. And often, we learn, grow and heal from those mistakes. But there are also times…
Why Spouses (and All Christians) Need to Argue More
It’s often unspoken but there’s one lie common in church circles I want to address. It’s an untruth all too often +assumed: “Christians are not supposed to argue.” My wife,…