4 Ways to Help a Hurting Friend
Editor’s note: This piece originally ran in 2019. A couple of years ago my life was upended. You probably know the type of thing I’m referring to—a major loss, a…
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12 Things Every Healthy Dating Relationship Needs
We’re entering the holiday season, which is both good and bad. Good, because we get rockin’ things like pumpkin pie, Christmas lights and carols, Jesus’ birthday, and a fresh start…
3 Things True Love Is Not
No other word in human language has been misconstrued, mistrusted, celebrated, worshipped and cursed more than love. We all want love, right? But do we have any clue what love…
Things It’s OK to Feel When You’re Single
Singles are staying single longer and longer. Advicers are dishing advice quicker and quicker. If there is a favorite pastime among blogs, married people, self-help books and your engaged friend…
The Secret Enemy in Your Marriage
We had been married just over a year. After another demanding week at work, neither of us wanted to get into it. And with changes going on in our families,…
11 Things You Need to Know About Dating
I never thought I’d be unmarried for all of my 20s. Like so many of my peers, I was surprised by how hard—and sometimes fruitless—dating had become. Wasn’t it supposed…
Have We Made an Idol Out of Sexual Purity?
I’ll never forget the look on her face as she shared the story of her dark sexual past, with tears welling up in her eyes. But the ironic thing is,…
How to Find the Beauty in a ‘Boring’ Marriage
The first challenge most marriages must endure does not come from trials and tribulation, but ordinary life. A mild disillusionment replaces newlywed euphoria as the echoes of wedding bells give…
Marriage Isn’t About Your Happiness
Did you ever think someone could show you love through a bologna sandwich? I didn’t think so either. Until I found out that my then-boyfriend-now-husband (a poor, broke, medical school…
Why There’s No Such Thing As a Soul Mate
I got an email from a young man who was feeling frustrated with relationships. He had recently asked a girl on a date and had been turned down. She explained…
7 Truths About Marriage You Won’t Hear in Church
Ever wish you had the answers to a test before you walked into the classroom? Maybe some of you did have the answers, but you better keep that to yourself.…
Why Spouses (and All Christians) Need to Argue More
It’s often unspoken but there’s one lie common in church circles I want to address. It’s an untruth all too often +assumed: “Christians are not supposed to argue.” My wife,…
No, You Don’t Need a Spouse to Complete You
I remember being in 6th grade and watching some cheesy family movie where the princess fell in love with some peasant shlub and they lived happily ever after. I remember…
OK, Let’s Stop With All the Talk About ‘Smokin’ Hot’ Wives
Four hundred years ago, Shakespeare wrote Romeo and Juliet and coined the phrases “star-crossed lovers” and “wild-goose chase.” The expressions stuck, and quickly grafted themselves into everyday English. In a…
What Sexuality Looks Like if You’re Single
The Church has a lot—a lot—to say about healthy sexuality within marriage. But what about sexuality beyond the scope of marriage? Our knee-jerk responses to any questions about sexuality have…