I Was A Suicidal Christian

One woman's story of depression, loss of hope„and other things Christians aren't 'supposed' to deal with.

BY KAREN NEUMAIR GOD March 12, 2013

Most people assume that I started running to lose weight, and I tend to let most people think that. Because the real reason is a lot less glamorous, a lot darker.

I started running to beat depression. Notice I didn’t call myself a runner, because that would imply that I am actually good at it. Me and my 13-minute mile–look out, world! But I didn’t start running just to kick the normal depressive episode that many of us experience from time to time. I started because of the more sinister, dark-night-of-the-soul depression—the kind where you don’t remember to eat, you don’t have the strength to get off the bathroom floor (if you make it that far), and you can’t think about anything except how badly you want to die.

Most of us will agree that Christians can get depressed, but can Christians get suicidal? Good Christians?

I suspect that many in the Church unconsciously believe that Christians do not and should not become suicidal, because suicide is, after all, something that only happens when you lose all hope, and don’t Christians have the best Hope there is?

I always believed that God absolutely, 100% had the power to heal me of my depression. But during those darkest nights, I didn’t believe that God would heal me, even though I knew He could. I never lost hope in Jesus, but I did lose hope for recovery. All I wanted more than anything else was to rest in the arms of my Savior. I gave up.

The temptation to kill myself felt like too much to bear. And so I had two options, to give in to that temptation and commit an irreversible (but not unforgivable) sin, or believe God’s promise to me in His Word:

“God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it” (1 Cor. 10:13).

And so, on December 22, 2011, I was admitted to Pine Rest Christian Mental Health Services for five days.

I think Christians often make the mistake of over-spiritualizing depression and neglecting the very real physical needs of a person caught in depression’s grip, while non-Christians tend to focus too much on the physical aspects of this condition while neglecting spiritual health. But what if getting to the bottom of depression requires a body, mind and soul approach?

In the hospital, I rested. I began to treat my body, mind and soul.

With the support of my healthcare team, I started new medication and added some vitamins and supplements into my diet. I began running as soon as the weather turned warm. I took care of my body. With the help of a licensed therapist, I learned to pay attention to and change my negative self-talk, to heal my mind. But most importantly–once my brain started to recover, I was strong enough to address the cracks in my faith that were revealed by the depth and the pressure of my depression.

No matter what depression may look like, the attributes of God are almost always under attack. Doubt always follows closely on the heels of depression. How can God love me, especially in this place? Even here—in the belly of the whale?

Jonah was suicidal too, you know.

When he asked those sailors to throw him overboard, there was no way to survive. He didn’t want to survive. But God provided a way out—a really awful and dark way out. And in the belly of the whale, God changed Jonah’s heart (if only temporarily), and only then was he vomited out onto to dry land.

Without healing in the body, mind and soul, depression will continue to creep back in.

And even if I accidentally wander into that dark place again, the sign of Jonah reminds me that, out of His unfailing love for me, God uses even depression to teach me more about who He is, to change my heart, and above all else, to demonstrate His power to save.

Even a wretch like me.

And like Jonah, I have been given a second chance. Unlike Jonah, I will not forget. And someday, maybe someday, I’ll be able to run a 10-minute mile. Maybe less.

This article originally appeared on devotionaldiva.com.

Karen Neumair

KAREN NEUMAIR

Karen Neumair is a lover of God and a lover of words, especially when those two things come together. She has experienced multiple depressive episodes in her life, most recently after the birth of her second daughter, but is overwhelming thankful for how God has used her depression to teach her more about Who He is (and who she isnÕt). Wife to Chris and Mommy to Hannah and Becca, Karen also serves as a Literary Agent with Credo Communications.

2 thoughts on “I Was A Suicidal Christian

  1. Thank you for posting this, im a believer and have been battling depression the most in the last 3 years. i have ADHD and a history of anxiety and depression as well as OCD and post traumatic stress. i was abused physically, verbally and sexually as a child, molested, and thrown out of a moving car by my ex- who also that stalked me for almost a year after running away from that relationship. I am now married with a beautiful 6 month old baby whom i love more than words. I am from california but right now due to an extremely complicated situation with my husband, we are living in his home country of poland, which we just moved to from sweden aft5er living there for one year. I have really been battling depression even more lately since i have no family besides my husband out here, and not really any friends. I am raising my son almost completely alone besides the help of my husband, when he isnt gone for weeks at a time in different countries for work. i feel really helpless and alone at this point. i went back to California a couple months ago with my son to visit MY family. It was relieving and much needed. But almost as soon as i came back here i sunk even deeper into my depression and feeling suicidal. My hormones are also all over the place being that i have ADHD and other problems. He is hardly even intimate with me when he IS around, which also really adds to my depression. i Feel like such a failure as both a mom and wife. My husband and i have had major issues in the past to where he has had emails from exs, naked photos in his phone, laptop and camera, resorted to dating other women during the times when he couldn’t handle our issues. Now i’m left feeling helpless and very insecure as a woman. I really feel like this is a season of lessons for me or something im not sure. But i’m really hurting because i feel like God is so quiet. ive tried reaching out to people and making friends, but i feel so much social anxiety to even learn the language here, it puts me into a complete panic. Any advice would be grately appreciated, especially prayer at this point. I feel very empty. I’ve really tried my best in giving this over to God, but now im just praying for clarity. I’m always thinking of self harm and really creepy things whenever im home by myself. i’m 27.

  2. Thank you for posting this, im a believer and have been battling depression the most in the last 3 consecutive years. I also have ADHD and a history of anxiety and depression as well as OCD and post traumatic stress. i was abused physically, verbally and sexually as a child, molested, and thrown out of a moving car by my ex- who also that stalked me for almost a year after running away from that relationship. I am now married with a beautiful 6 month old baby whom i love more than words. I am from california but right now due to an extremely complicated situation with my husband, we are living in his home country of poland, which we just moved to from sweden aft5er living there for one year. I have really been battling depression even more lately since i have no family besides my husband out here, and not really any friends. I am raising my son almost completely alone besides the help of my husband, when he isnt gone for weeks at a time in different countries for work. i feel really helpless and alone at this point. i went back to California a couple months ago with my son to visit MY family. It was relieving and much needed. But almost as soon as i came back here i sunk even deeper into my depression and feeling suicidal. My hormones are also all over the place being that i have ADHD and other problems. He is hardly even intimate with me when he IS around, which also really adds to my depression. i Feel like such a failure as both a mom and wife. My husband and i have had major issues in the past to where he has had emails from exs, naked photos in his phone, laptop and camera, resorted to dating other women during the times when he couldn’t handle our issues. Now i’m left feeling helpless and very insecure as a woman. I really feel like this is a season of lessons for me or something im not sure. But i’m really hurting because i feel like God is so quiet. ive tried reaching out to people and making friends, but i feel so much social anxiety to even learn the language here, it puts me into a complete panic. Any advice would be grately appreciated, especially prayer at this point. I feel very empty. I’ve really tried my best in giving this over to God, but now im just praying for clarity. I’m always thinking of self harm and really creepy things whenever im home by myself. i’m 27.

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