Relationships

We Asked, You Answered: The Worst Christian Excuses for Breaking Up You’ve Ever Heard

Break-ups happen every day. Sometimes it’s for compatibility reasons, sometimes for distance, or sometimes it’s…

The RELEVANT Guide to Getting Over Your Ex

The first, and most important thing to acknowledge when you’ve been dumped is that it…

What We Get Wrong About Dating

One day, a blond, mountain biking, engineer, five years younger than me asked me out on a date. I’m glad I ignored my list and said yes.

Are You in a Toxic Friendship?

In the recent decade, I’ve witnessed tragic instances of broken relationships and detrimental rifts within…

How to Make Sure Your Relationship Lasts Past the Beginning

Congratulations. You are fresh in your relationship and your heart is probably pounding with excitement.…

Mike Todd: Three Ways to Transform Your Dating Life

One of the reasons there’s a widespread definitional dating in our day is because recreational…

A Guide to Being Single During the Holidays

“What happened to the time?” I ask myself. It seems like only yesterday I was…

How to Identify an Unhealthy Relationship

Contrary to popular belief, emotional abuse can be just as devastating to a victim as…

Four Things We Wish We Knew About Sex Before We Were Married

When it comes to Christians and newlywed sex, there are usually two extremes. For some…

Everything My Church Taught Me About Sex and Marriage Is Wrong

As a sixth grader, I went to a big Christian summer camp where the speaker…

When You Just Can’t Get Over Your Ex

The scene that never grows old is the breakup bit from Say Anything. Even if you’ve…

Eight Things You Should Never Say to Your Single Friends

“It’s OK, your Prince Charming is out there!” I was told recently. Frozen smile on…

Four Pieces of Dating Advice That Are Actually Helpful

As I’ve noted before, if you’re single, you’ve most likely received your fair share of…

The Big Lie Everyone Believes About Having Kids

About a week before I found out that I was pregnant with my first child,…

The Secret to Feeling Less Lonely in Your Twenties

Every Monday we would gather at our favorite grimy, beach-themed restaurant to eat, drink, and…

Here’s How to Ask Someone Out Without Being Creepy

There is nothing creepier than telling a woman God told you, “we should be together!”…

Have We Made an Idol Out of Sexual Purity?

I’ll never forget the look on her face as she shared the story of her…

Five Dating Mistakes You’re Probably Making

There are so many mistakes to be made when it comes to dating and relationships.…

Marriage Isn’t About Your Happiness

Did you ever think someone could show you love through a bologna sandwich? I didn’t…

Why Is Christian Dating So Weird?

My unmarried roommate Charlie was climbing into his late thirties when a woman invited him…

The Problem With Casual Dating

A sure sign of any healthy relationship is the fact that it continually grows. Of course, many would say that growing slowly together is a good thing, and keeping things casual at first can help. But can casual dating ever get in the way of real growth?

Are You Sure You’re Ready For Love?

As a professional counselor, I have worked with countless couples whose problems and strife stemmed…

Stop Waiting for Him to Ask You Out

In college, I waited—like I thought every good Christian girl was supposed to. The Christian…

Singleness Isn’t a Problem

If you’re a Christian, older than 22 and single, odds are things are weird for…

6 Date Ideas That Literally Don’t Cost Anything

I remember an expensive first date when I was in my early 20s. I was…

When Is it OK to End a Friendship?

Friendships, and how to appropriately navigate them can be really tricky. Because on one hand,…

12 Things Every Healthy Dating Relationship Needs

I’ve always wanted to be married, but I’m still single at 44 years old. In…

Study: Most Romances Start as Long-Term Friendships, Not ‘Love at First Sight’

A new study is challenging a lot of popular notions about love and romance by…

When Your Spouse Feels More Like a Roommate

The first time I met Sarah and Tom, I thought that they were a special…

Singleness Does Not Mean Unhappiness

I was sitting on a panel about dating when someone asked the classic question: “What’s…

Can You Really Be Friends With Someone After a Breakup?

Much like shopping for a car (OK, maybe nothing like that), dating can be a…

How Purity Culture Rhetoric Can Teach Men to Devalue Women

In purity rhetoric for men, women are often depicted as damsels in distress, but also…

Three Big Myths Movies Taught Us About Sex

We all remember those awkward “talks” with our parents or those sixth grade reproductive health…

Forgiveness and Reconciliation: What’s the Difference?

Most of my work as a psychotherapist consists of helping individuals and couples work through…

The Five Friends You Really Need

Long gone are the days of the junior high lunchroom—where kids seemed to be divided…

A Guide to Newlywed Sex

RELEVANT looks at how sex can be hard to resist before marriage—and how confusing it can be after the wedding day.

The One Thing No Relationship Can Survive

I got married in the summer of 2017, and it was and still is a…

How to Master the Cheap Date (Without Being Cheap)

The bill arrives for dinner. Yikes. You didn’t anticipate spending that much money. But what…

5 Keys to Surviving a Breakup

Here’s something that probably won’t shock you: breakups suck. Shocking, right? The truth is, unless…

Dr. Dharius Daniels on Dating and Breaking Up Well

Relationships in the modern age are seemingly complex. Navigating dating apps to defining the relationship…